19 Months… and counting!

Posted by tata on Monday Oct 13, 2008 Under Kids and Family, Parenting

I’m still nursing! Technically, we’re at 1 year, 7 months and 3 days. Every day is still another victory.

Rare treat for BuddhaI’m very ambivalent about weaning. We’re down to nursing 3-4 times per day: mornings, bedtime and during the night, with the very occasional lunchtime session. Since I started working several weeks ago, nap time nursing is more and more rare. I was off today, so Buddha got himself a rare treat. Mostly, I’m ready to reclaim my body, but I know that when it is over at long last, I will miss it. Short of a medical anomaly, he is to be my last child. And while he isn’t my only child, he is the only child I have successfully nursed for any length of time. I’m very proud that we have come this far.

He has been eating like a bottomless pit. He has inherited his Daddy’s hollow legs. He really loves fries and can identify them by their bag in the frozen food aisle (assuming he’s not too busy trying to chuck items out of the cart). He is so full of personality: his smile is beautiful and as contagious as his hearty laughs, he is increasingly inquisitive and has one helluva temper. He likes to look at pictures - he points us out and calls us by our respective names. He can identify his eyes, nose, ears, hair, chin, and knees. He insists on meowing at all animals, but I attribute that to his living with a cat. Like Daddy, he is very interested in electronics, particularly if they are the telephone (which he refers to as "hello" or "’lo"), the remote ("teedee"), flashlights, or anything that lights up, makes noise and he shouldn’t really be touching.

He doesn’t let a broken tibia or a casted leg slow him down. Speaking of which, tomorrow we return to the pediatric orthopedic office to X-ray (hell) and,  hopefully, cast removal. I dread it. Remembering how much he hated the previous X-rays, I’m anxious that he’ll spot the machine and start crying. And then - assuming  - the cast does come off, they are going to use that horrible vibrating tool-ma-jigger to remove it. God grant me strength…

Joy & Boy The girl has been a handful. Since we lost power for 4 days during the time our meds needed refilling, she has been completely off-kilter. Hell, so have I. It takes weeks for us to both return to "normal," too. And since my lack of meds affects my memory, I’ve further screwed up a time or five in reminding her to take hers. Point is, she has been especially whiny and defiant. Husband and I are very frustrated with her. She is doing well in school per her teacher at the recent parent-teacher conference, just talks too much every single day and gets in trouble for it every single day. So, we’ve opted to extend her consequences for that at home. If she comes home with strikes for talking, she won’t be allowed to play outside. This method has worked for us in the past, we’re hoping it will work again.

If you recall the recent bad news, I managed to dodge that bullet with her. P’s daughter L ended up not coming by or speaking to Joy about what had happened, so I simply told Joy that L had lost a friend from her classroom to death and might be feeling sad for a while. I’m somewhat relieved, in all honesty. I’m very uncertain how Joy would’ve reacted to hearing all of this at this moment in time, since she has been such an emotional wreck from whacky med-schedules.

In other news, Husband and I have decided to start our own business. Husband surprised everyone by coming up with a wonderfully clever name for it. Meanwhile, I’m stuck in restaurant hell but looking forward to two job interviews very soon, including one with the state next Tuesday (the 21st). Please keep your fingers crossed! While it isn’t a gob of money, it is compared to what I’m doing now and seems to be quite secure in the otherwise nose-diving economy. The benefits are quite nice, too. Best of all, it’s a good way to get my foot into the door doing the kind of work I want to do.

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My growing boy

Posted by tata on Tuesday Jul 29, 2008 Under Kids and Family
On Saturday, we went to Iroquios Park for the Mountain and Hammered Dulcimer concert at the Amphitheater. It was nice, but much smaller than I had expected. T and the boy were bored and the whole lot of them were on my nerves, so we opted to walk over to the park instead. The boy needs more outdoor time these days, what with all his energy. He needs some place to put it that doesn’t involve climbing my furniture or destroying Husband’s computer parts.

He still hates the swing.
But he loves exploring.
And checking out the water feature,
as long as he doesn’t get too wet.
He talks up a storm these days. His vocabulary includes several words that are very easy for anyone to understand: “hi,” “hello,” “daddy,” “mama,” “eat,” “please,” “thank you,” “up,” “down,” “uh-oh,” “no-no,” “eat,” “more,” “bye-bye,” “cup,” and a few others that currently elude me. He also says a number of words that only I seem to be able to understand. He has a distinct way of saying T’s name that everyone else thinks is “daddy.”

He loves bathtime and is generally intrigued with water, although he usually approaches it cautiously unless it’s bathwater. P took him with her to the pool last night and said he wanted nothing to do with the pool, but sat quietly with her poolside and watched others in the water intently for 45 minutes. Anyone who knows Buddha knows that he is typically far too high-strung for sitting long spells contently!


Getting him to sleep is a nightmare (pardon the pun). I am so unaccustomed to this, as Joy has always been a dream (sorry - couldn’t resist) when it comes to bedtime. Every night is a literal battle over getting him to rest. Even naptime has escalated into hellish torment. The boy will be so tired and cranky but still refuse to lay and rest. Husband and I have wondered if perhaps he is plagued by bad dreams or if he is just afraid of sleep. And now that he has figured out how to get up and down out of our bed, we have decided that it is time to get him sleeping in the crib. I am every bit as unhappy about this development as the boy is. He screams as though he is being tortured, despite the fact that we are right there, coddling and patting him, whispering unheard reassurances that all is well, hush now, it is time for bed. This leaves me stressed out and unable to sleep for several hours thereafter.

His appetite has been fluctuating like that of a toddler: one day he is fine with eating very little and the next day, he is a bottomless pit. He has several teeth coming in and it’s getting very uncomfortable to nurse. He has punctured the skin on my left nipple with those tiny teeth of his, despite the fact that he didn’t actually bite me. I suppose it is just friction that accompanies the suckling motion of his mouth. In any case, the past few days I have dreaded nursing, as this is his preferred side. Wouldn’t it follow that he has wanted to nurse more these past few days? He really loves bananas and he enjoyed helping me eat the Rainier cherries (see last post). He likes sausage and chicken and french fries (well, any sort of potato, really) and pasta and olives and fish. His dislikes seem to be more about texture than taste.

He loves watching Jack’s Big Music Show and Blue’s Clues. He loves music. He likes books. But he still prefers throwing things best. Unfortunately, he is usually throwing his heavy toys (like the flash light the in-laws sent to him for his first birthday) at people or our computers. He likes being outside or going for a ride in the car. He wanders around aimlessly like a butterfly when we go to the park. He likes drinking (only water!) from a cup.

Nursing this morning.
What’s daddy doing?!

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Breastfeeding: Failures and Successes

Posted by tata on Monday Jul 7, 2008 Under Parenting
A fellow blogger posted about her breastfeeding successes a few months ago and it inspired me to document my own failures and successes.

When I was pregnant with Joy, I read absolutely everything I could get my hands on about pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. I talked extensively with my mom about her experiences, as well. Mom told me she had only nursed my eldest brother and not for long. Her husband was called in for military deployment and she said the stress of that dried her milk up overnight. Later in my pregnancy, I talked to my dad and he made a comment about remembering when my mom nursed me.

I argued with him: “Mom did not nurse me!”

“Yes, she did!” he responded.

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